A special edition on moms of boys

Let me guess: you’re Googling “parenting consultant near me” (or something like it) after your son just slammed a door, hit his sister, screamed “I hate you,” ignored you for the 47th time, or melted down in the middle of Target because you took away his iPad for being disrespectful. 

You’re not the only one. These moments suck. And they would make any boy mom wonder, “What am I missing?”

So if you’re exploring what it would look like to get help and hire a parenting consultant, then “Yay! Congratulations!” That’s step #1.  

Step #2 is figuring out what that actually means: What does a parenting consultant do?

Let’s break it down.

Parenting Consultant vs. Therapist vs. Instagram “Expert”

A parenting consultant isn’t a therapist (we’re not here to unpack your childhood), and we’re not influencers posting quick fixes on Instagram. 

We hang out in that sweet spot between real-world application and professional expertise – we’re certified and many of us, like me, have Master’s Degrees or MSWs with specializations in Children and Family Services. 

A good parenting consultant will:

• Help you understand your child’s behavior, what’s underneath it, and what to do about it.
• Teach you practical tools and communication strategies to improve your relationship and your influence over your child.
• Offer a healthy outside perspective when you’re too emotionally “in it” to see clearly. We uncover blind spots you didn’t know you had.
• Stay focused on you, not just your child, to help you shift your energy, tone, and mindset, which all matter more than you know. 

And if you’re raising a strong-willed, sensitive, intense, persistent boy, you know that most advice misses the mark. You say, “I see you’re really frustrated,” and he says, “Thanks, Captain Obvious” and proceeds to explode on you. I hear this at least weekly! 

That’s where a parenting consultant who specializes in boys (like me) comes in. As a mom of 3 boys, I’ve made it my mission to understand what will keep them close, connected, kind, and cooperative. The Boy Mom Method is my answer, and I teach it inside The Boy Mom Academy.  

How It Works

When you work with a parent consultant like me, you don’t get a lecture; you get a partner.  Together, we stand shoulder to shoulder and look at your family life. We inspect your child’s behavior, the context in which it exists, and the various strategies you’ve already tried.

We actively reflect, experiment, and build a toolbox that works for your family.

Most parent coaching services include:

• Private coaching sessions (usually online)
• Group programs with workshops, Q&A, and community support
• Action steps to try between sessions
• Optional support via chat, email, or WhatsApp when you’re in the moment and need a lifeline

Some families come in during a rough patch. Think school refusal, bullying, screen addiction, unsafe sibling rivalry, or extremely disrespectful language or behavior. Others want ongoing support as they raise neurodivergent kids, navigate tricky transitions (a new baby, puberty, new screen rules), or worry their son is heading down the wrong path. 

What Makes My Approach Different

As a parenting advisor, my focus is always on connection, not control. That’s especially important if you’re parenting boys, who often show stress or dysregulation through defiance, withdrawal, or “not caring.”

Here’s what sets my work apart:

• I don’t offer cookie-cutter advice. Instead, we co-create strategies that fit your son’s personality and your parenting values.
• I focus on the parent-child relationship. When your child feels emotionally safe, their behavior improves. Period.
• I help you stop second-guessing yourself. Because parenting a boy who resists rules or ignores you can seriously shake your confidence. That’s why I include real-time support in The Boy Mom Academy. 

So if your son is melting down, refusing to do chores, or just tuning you out, I won’t hand you a sticker chart. I’ll help you crack the code on your son so you know what’s really going on and can adjust your parenting accordingly.

When to Hire a Parenting Consultant

Here are some signs it might be time:

• You’ve tried all the “tips,” and nothing sticks for long, if at all.
• You feel like your son is running the house, or you’re constantly stuck in power struggles.
• You’re parenting a boy with ADHD, autism, anxiety, or big emotions, and traditional discipline tools don’t work.
• You’re exhausted from trying to do it all and still wondering if you’re doing enough (this one breaks my heart).

You don’t have to white-knuckle your way through parenting. It’s not fair to you, and it’s not what your child really needs either. 

That’s why more families, especially moms of boys, are turning to parenting consultants for coaching, for “thought partnership,” and for instant accountability and support. 

FAQs

Q: What’s the difference between a parenting consultant and a therapist?

Therapists focus on healing past wounds. Parenting consultants focus on helping you build skills and strategies to parent more effectively right now. 

Q: Do you only work with moms of boys?

No, but that’s my specialty and the topic of my group program, The Boy Mom Academy. I also work with dads, moms of girls, single moms, and blended families, but my approach is especially helpful if you’re raising a boy who’s strong-willed, sensitive, or feeling misunderstood.

Q: How do I know if this will work for my child?

If your child is at least 3 years old, speaks or communicates reliably, and is capable of building a relationship (even if it’s sometimes rocky)… then yes, this work can help. I offer a money-back guarantee on my academy if you’re still not sure. You can also schedule a low cost trial session if you want to give it a test run. 

Q: Is this available online?

Yes! I’ve offered online parent coaching services since 2010. Whether you’re in California or across the globe, support is just a Zoom link away.