# Sklarparenting


## Posts

- [The “Counter-Wiping Workshop” that changed everything + upcoming Book Event](https://sklarparenting.com/the-counter-wiping-workshop-that-changed-everything-upcoming-book-event/): If you’re new here, welcome! Two Tip Tuesday is my (somewhat) weekly ritual of dropping two super valuable tips in your inbox. Each time, we start with a ninja parenting hack and finish with a red-hot resource. Today, I’m adding a bonus for those of you who missed last week’s “Moms of Sons” event with Ryan Park. He showed us how positive female mental health focuses on connection, while positive male mental health centers on capability. He showed us exactly how to focus our mother-son conversations on celebrating strengths, identifying goals, and exploring solutions rather than starting with emotional validation, which can cause boys to shut down. One idea... Read More
- [Creating a "Book of Possibilities" For Your Child + Mantra: "Curious, Not Commanding"](https://sklarparenting.com/creating-a-book-of-possibilities-for-your-child-mantra-curious-not-commanding/): Here are some tips I share with you, the same ones I give to my clients and boy mom communities. Tip #1 Create a “Book of Possibilities” For Your Child I suggest you create a “Book of Possibilities” for your child. It’s an easy way to build connection and increase your child’s sense of self. Step 1: Get a blank spiral notebook – ideally one where you can write or stick a title on the cover. Label it:  “[First Name] [Last Name’s] Book of Possibilities.” So it might say:  “Daniel Smith’s Book of Possibilities.”  Step 2: On the first page, write a message about why... Read More
- [New Year Back to School Family Reset + A Must Read Article for Boy Moms](https://sklarparenting.com/new-year-back-to-school-family-reset-a-must-read-article-for-boy-moms/): I love Two Tip Tuesday posts, but oh man, back-to-school has been back-to-busy. I didn’t want the day to end without sharing these gems in case they help your transition back to early mornings, homework hassles, and after-school chaos. 1. Do a Back to School Family Reset The new year is tricky. Kids may technically be back in school, but routines are still out of whack. The holiday break was a slippery slope, and it’s likely you fell off the wagon with some of the systems you set up earlier in the year. It’s time to get back on track,... Read More
- [An Easy Way to Teach Your Child to be Philanthropic + My New Hero](https://sklarparenting.com/an-easy-way-to-teach-your-child-to-be-philanthropic-my-new-hero/): Tip #1: Create a Casual Family Foundation The holiday season is a great time to help kids feel the joy of giving.Here’s what we do in our house in case it sparks ideas for your family. We have an informal tradition called The Sklar Family Foundation.(One day it might become a real foundation. For now, it’s just what we call our annual meeting where we sit around the table and decide where to donate our money.) Here’s how we do it: We always do this on one night of Hanukkah – a night dedicated to giving instead of receiving. You can... Read More
- [Looping - "Yes, Exactly!" Script](https://sklarparenting.com/looping-yes-exactly-script/): Now that Thanksgiving is behind us, how are you feeling about the rest of the holiday season? If you’re like many parents, you’re oscillating between excitement and the mild dread that comes with a change in routine. But the holidays can be an opportunity to practice new skills that transform our relationships with our kids, and that brings me to today’s first tip… Looping Last week, I commented on a Facebook video about “Looping,” a communication strategy where you prove to someone that you understand them, even if you profoundly disagree with them. I recommend watching the video here if... Read More
- [Clear the Air with Your Son and Join Our Book Club!](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-clear-the-air-with-your-son-and-join-our-book-club/): I’m coming to you today with a ninja tip that takes just two seconds but can dramatically shift your relationship with your son. So many of my clients struggle when their boys are moody, prickly, or giving them attitude, and they’re not sure how to break through that wall. Stay ’till the end if you’re interested in joining our next Book Club+ discussion about raising boys in today’s world! Tip #1: Ask “Are You Mad at Me?” to Clear the Air Have you ever noticed a moment when your child is in a bad mood, giving you attitude, or otherwise... Read More
- [The Anxious Generation Summary - Book Club Plus Recap](https://sklarparenting.com/the-anxious-generation-summary-book-club-plus-recap/): Our Boy Mom Academy Book Club+ conversation about The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt was one of those discussions where you could feel everyone leaning in. Today, I’m sharing a recap. ​ How We Opened I started by welcoming everyone and sharing why I host these conversations: to help parents (especially of boys) navigate today’s tech landscape without sacrificing connection at home. I introduced The Boy Mom Method and why I focus on boys – because their needs, wiring, and social context are more different than we realize, and many mainstream approaches don’t fit well for families with strong-willed or... Read More
- [The 3 Rs to Raising Grateful Kids (Plus, How to Reach Your Teen Son)](https://sklarparenting.com/the-3-rs-to-raising-grateful-kids-plus-how-to-reach-your-teen-son-two-tip-tuesday-33/): I’m coming to you today with a tip about ungrateful kids. So many of my clients worry that they’re raising entitled kids who don’t appreciate what they’re given. This week, I’m sharing a tip straight from my Moms of Strong Willed Boys Facebook Group about how to raise grateful kids. Stay ’till the end if you’re a Teen Boy Mom! I have a special tip for you too! Tip #1: Try the 3 Rs to Raise Grateful Kids Have you ever thought, “My kid has no idea how good he has it”? Or have you asked yourself (be honest), “Am... Read More
- [How to Balance Work and Parenting with a Parent Coach](https://sklarparenting.com/how-to-balance-work-and-parenting-with-a-parent-coach/): When I opened my full-time parent coaching practice, I intended to focus on helping industry executives raise the next generation of leaders. Role modeling a healthy work-life balance while still prioritizing relationships at home felt like a noble cause. But was I walking the talk? At the time, I had three boys, a packed calendar, and an ADHD-ish brain constantly bouncing between client sessions, social media marketing, and school pickup. I knew what to do, but I wasn’t always doing it. I was running on caffeine, good intentions, and a low-key sense of guilt that I wasn’t showing up fully... Read More
- [What Does a Parenting Consultant Really Do?](https://sklarparenting.com/what-does-a-parenting-consultant-really-do/): A special edition on moms of boys Let me guess: you’re Googling “parenting consultant near me” (or something like it) after your son just slammed a door, hit his sister, screamed “I hate you,” ignored you for the 47th time, or melted down in the middle of Target because you took away his iPad for being disrespectful.  You’re not the only one. These moments suck. And they would make any boy mom wonder, “What am I missing?” So if you’re exploring what it would look like to get help and hire a parenting consultant, then “Yay! Congratulations!” That’s step #1.  ... Read More
- [The Best Parent Coaching Programs for Modern Families](https://sklarparenting.com/the-best-parent-coaching-programs-for-modern-families/): Is it annoying and trite to say, “Kids don’t come with a manual?” Yes, it is. But it’s true for a good reason.  If there were a manual that worked for every child, kids would be automatons with no personality, and family life would be incredibly dull.  Still, experts are trying to help. We give advice on how to handle screen time challenges, kids not listening, aggressive behavior, overloaded schedules, and all the new research on neurodiversity. But generic advice only works for automatons, and your child is not one of them.   That’s why the best coaching programs for modern... Read More
- [Building Trust When Kids Shut Down plus Communication Strategies for Teen Boys](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-31-building-trust-when-kids-shut-down-plus-communication-strategies-for-teen-boys/): Below, I’m sharing the most common tip I’ve been handing out lately, plus some important information about connecting with your teen son. Tip #1: What to Do When Kids Shut Down After our Teen Boy Mom support group last week, I got this message: “Great session this morning! Would love to get your guidance on how to break the brick wall. I want to help and scaffold but it is hard to even get a breakthrough.” This mom was talking about that moment when her son completely shuts down while she’s trying to help him learn something new (like better... Read More
- [Mindful Motivation and "Inside-Out Inspiration"](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-30-mindful-motivation-and-inside-out-inspiration/): I’m back in the office after an incredible week at Burning Man. My husband and I have been attending since 2004 (with a few breaks for pregnancy and nursing), and it remains the highlight of our year. We completely unplug from work and parenting responsibilities to reconnect with ourselves and each other. Here’s something that might surprise you: we do this as much for our kids as we do for ourselves. I truly believe children need to see their parents prioritizing their adult relationship and practicing self-care. They need opportunities to manage their lives without us, building independence and resilience... Read More
- [Parent Coaching for Autism: Supporting Neurodiverse Families - Where does ABA fit in?](https://sklarparenting.com/parent-coaching-for-autism-supporting-neurodiverse-families-where-does-aba-fit-in/): If you’re parenting a neurodivergent child, especially one with autism or ADHD traits, you know better than anyone how challenging it can be.   After receiving a diagnosis, you may have been referred to therapy, ABA, or a long list of specialists. But did you get a referral for you, the parent? In my mind, support for parents walking through this minefield doesn’t come often enough.  But parent coaching for autism is available to you. It’s not therapy. It’s not behavior training. And it’s definitely not ABA. Let’s explore what it is and how it can help. What Parent Coaching Is (and Isn’t)... Read More
- [Find the Best Parenting Coach Near You: What to Look For](https://sklarparenting.com/find-the-best-parenting-coach-near-you-what-to-look-for/): Have you ever Googled “parent coach near me” after a terrible day with your kids?  In fact, is that how you landed here? {wink, wink} Or is the concept of “parent coach” or “parent coaching” not even on your radar?  Either way, if you’re a parent wishing you had a magical charm to make your child behave, you’re in the right place.   The parent coaching industry is growing and you don’t want to miss out.  When I started my practice in 2010, most people didn’t even know parent coaching was a thing – at least not until they needed help that... Read More
- [Emotion Coaching for Parents: Build Stronger Emotional Bonds](https://sklarparenting.com/emotion-coaching-for-parents-build-stronger-emotional-bonds/): When my kids were young, I read a lot of parenting books, always hoping they would solve my problems with magical techniques – there’s literally a book called 1,2,3 Magic! Spoiler alert, it didn’t make magic in our house.    But there was one book that taught me a skill I’ll never forget and have taken with me through my parenting journey and into my coaching practice daily. That skill is called “Emotion Coaching.”   When kids are in meltdown mode and emotions are running high, it’s hard to know what to do. You can try to “technique the problem away” and... Read More
- [Parenting Alone? How Coaching Can Empower Single Moms](https://sklarparenting.com/parenting-alone-how-coaching-can-empower-single-moms/): Raising kids is hard. Raising them alone? That’s next level.  If you’re parenting solo, whether by choice or circumstance, you are making every decision, every day, by yourself.  Thinking through your next move with a partner? Not happening. Tagging out when your kid is losing it?  Nope. Calling in backup when you say no?  You’re on your own.  Processing your day at 10 pm and wondering where you went wrong? It’s lonely.  This is where single mom coaching can be life-changing. Why Coaching Is Different Than Advice Many solo moms (aka single moms) read books, listen to podcasts, and scroll through... Read More
- [How a Certified Parenting Coach Can Help You Raise Resilient Kids](https://sklarparenting.com/how-a-certified-parenting-coach-can-help-you-raise-resilient-kids/): When my kids were little, I used to Google my parenting questions after midnight (or after their third intense meltdown of the day). So if that’s you, you’re not alone. Raising kids, especially strong-willed boys or kids with ADHD type traits, can be rewarding but wildly confusing at the same time – often within the same five minutes. And while there’s no handbook for parenting, there are ways to get help and raise kids who can bounce back from any challenge. That’s where a certified parent coach comes in. What Is a Certified Parent Coach? A certified parent coach is a... Read More
- [Your Screen Time Plan + Our Next Book Club](https://sklarparenting.com/your-screen-time-plan-our-next-book-club-two-tip-tuesday-29/): I hope your Back-to-School season is treating you well. I’ve got two tips for you today, both related to preventing the downsides of a “phone-based childhood.” Tip # 1. What’s Your Screen Time Plan this Year? This is a simple tip: If you don’t have a screen time plan for the school year, it’s time to make one. And to make it as effective as possible, here are a few sub-tips to keep in mind: Collaborate: Include your children in the decision-making process. Use empathetic dialogue and flexibility to come up with a win-win agreement – no matter how old... Read More
- [ADHD Parent Coaching: Practical Strategies That Work](https://sklarparenting.com/adhd-parent-coaching-practical-strategies-that-work/): When your child is bouncing off the walls, ignoring directions, or melting down over something seemingly small, you start asking questions like:  “Do we need help?” “Is this ADHD? Or is my kid just being a kid?” Or worse, “Am I failing as a parent?”  Ouch!  Those are tough questions that will either prompt you into action or despair.   I’m here to tell you that taking action is what your child needs. So let’s get you going.   But be careful. The next action you take should be thoughtful. If you’re like most parents, you’ll start with tips and parenting hacks you found... Read More
- [Online Parent Coaching: The Support You Need From Anywhere](https://sklarparenting.com/online-parent-coaching-the-support-you-need-from-anywhere/): When I first trained as a certified parent coach at Seattle Pacific University’s Parent Coaching Institute, all of the courses were hosted by the professors on freeconferencecall.com.  Remember that? It was 2010, and it was great. I had two little kids at home, and taking a shower before 10pm was a luxury.  When I opened my parent coaching business that year, I kept the phone appointments going. I knew parents didn’t have time to drive to and from appointments. They wanted to stay in their pajamas and schedule sessions during nap time. Or conference in their husband on his lunch... Read More
- [Transform How You Handle Your Son's Troubles and How To Do a Back-to-School Reset!](https://sklarparenting.com/transform-how-you-handle-your-sons-troubles-and-how-to-do-a-back-to-school-reset-two-tip-tuesday-28/): Picture this: It’s a beautiful summer day, and your phone rings. It’s your son’s camp counselor with those dreaded words, “We need to talk about what happened today.” Your heart sinks, your mind races, and the first question that tumbles out of your mouth is probably, “What happened?” Last week alone, three different parents I work with got calls exactly like this from summer camp. Each one letting them know their kid had gotten into some kind of trouble. And each parent did the natural next step: They asked, “What happened?” It’s pure instinct. You want the full story. You... Read More
- [Masking vs. Adapting & Screen Time Tips That Actually Works](https://sklarparenting.com/masking-vs-adapting-screen-time-tips-that-actually-works-two-tip-tuesday-27/): During this week’s Boy Mom Academy meeting, almost everyone shared their frustration about summer screen use. It’s a great time to pause and check in as a family about how things are going. (See Tip #2 below for more on that.) But first, I want to build on last week’s theme, when we talked about helping kids “read a room.” This time, we’re looking at it through the lens of neurodivergence and masking. Here are two power tips to transform your summer parenting: Tip #1: Masking vs. Adapting: Know the Difference The term masking has gained traction in the neurodivergent parenting... Read More
- [Why Your Child Can't "Read the Room" And What to Do About Your Own Phone Habits](https://sklarparenting.com/why-your-child-cant-read-the-room-and-what-to-do-about-your-own-phone-habits-two-tip-tuesday-26/): I have a lot to share since I’ve been away from writing, so let’s dive into two power tips that can transform your parenting this week. Focus on the one you need most and let me know what resonates! Tip #1: Teach Your Child to “Read the Room” Do you ever wish your child was better at “reading the room”? Like, if only they could truly understand what the situation calls for and then adjust their behavior accordingly? I met a mom last week whose kid is really bad at this. This kid walks into every room full force, bursting... Read More
- [Less Scrolling, More Rolling: Two Simple Ways to Get Kids Off Screens This Summer](https://sklarparenting.com/less-scrolling-more-rolling-two-simple-ways-to-get-kids-off-screens-this-summer-two-tip-tuesday-25/): Summer break is here, and if you’re like most parents, you’re already wondering how to keep your kids engaged without defaulting to endless screen time. The struggle is real. You’re not alone in trying to get kids off screens. Today I’m sharing two practical strategies that actually work (no complicated reward charts or bribing required). These are real-world tested approaches that busy parents can start using today. Tip #1: Host a Board Game Challenge Here’s what happened when I pitched the idea to my youngest son last week: ME: I’m hosting a Summer Board Game Challenge. HIM: What’s that? ME: That’s where we... Read More
- [How to Handle Tantrums: Fiery vs. Watery Tantrums + 3 Summer Tips](https://sklarparenting.com/how-to-handle-tantrums-fiery-vs-watery-tantrums-3-summer-tips/): Hope you’re hanging in. Just a reminder: emotional growth doesn’t always look like progress. Sometimes it looks like a tantrum first. Welcome to Two Tip Tuesday, where I send one short parenting insight and one resource (or in this case, three) I think you’ll love. Let’s dive in… 1. How to Handle Tantrums: Flip the Switch from Fiery to Watery? As a parenting coach, I help a lot of families figure out how to handle tantrums.   There’s the fiery tantrum—defiant, stubborn, explosive. And then there’s the watery tantrum—vulnerable, teary, and flexible. Both are normal. But one is a lot easier to handle.... Read More
- ["The 2015 Dress" Trick + A New Way to Partner with Me](https://sklarparenting.com/the-2015-dress-trick-a-new-way-to-partner-with-me/): Today, I have one throwback perspective to share and one parent coach opportunity you might want in on. Tip #1: “Remember the Dress” During Arguments Remember The Dress — the viral photo that some people swore was white and gold, and others swore was blue and black? Turns out, both groups were right… depending on how their brains interpreted the lighting. (We talked about this in a Boy Mom Academy meeting this week and some moms had never heard of it. If that’s you, check it out HERE.) It’s a perfect metaphor for what happens during sibling fights ~ or anytime... Read More
- [What to do when your kid still can't take no for an answer](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-24-what-to-do-when-your-kid-still-cant-take-no-for-an-answer/): Welcome to this week’s Two Tip Tuesday—where I share one parenting insight and one outside resource that might make your life a little easier. Let’s dive in. Tip #1:  What to Do When Your Child Can’t Take No for an Answer? Last week’s tip was about how to help kids handle disappointment when you say no to something. Read my “Handle the No” tip <HERE>.  One mom emailed me and asked what to do if her kid still can’t take no for answer: She said: Here’s the gist of what I told her: When a full-blown meltdown erupts because you... Read More
- [When your child can't take NO for an answer](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-23-when-your-child-cant-take-no-for-an-answer/): I’ve got a tip for you from our Boy Mom Academy drop-in coaching session and a reminder to join our meeting for Moms of ADHD(ish?) Boys.  Tip #1:  Kids That Can’t Take No For an Answer – Teach them to “Handle the No” Can your kid take “No” for an answer? It’s hard. Kids fall apart, argue, negotiate, explode, or retreat. Still, every kid needs to learn how to “Handle The No.” How each child handles hearing “no” will vary. But handle it, they must. So let’s make it our business to help them (especially our boys) figure out a personal strategy for accepting “no”... Read More
- [Ask your child this question to make transitions easier](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-22-ask-your-child-this-question-to-make-transitions-easier/): Spring is so close I can taste it. I have seasonal affect despair—not a real disorder, just a deep longing for hot, sunny weather that I can feel in my gut. Let’s get into Two Tip Tuesday, where I share one quick tip and one resource you don’t want to miss. Tip #1:  The Last Thing Script Ever give your kid a warning that it’s time to leave and expect them to bounce along with you when you’re ready? Yeah… that rarely works. Here’s what to do instead: Ask, “What’s the last thing you want to do before we go?”... Read More
- [An Apology Script and a Deal For You](https://sklarparenting.com/late-tip-tuesday-an-apology-script-and-a-deal-for-you/): It turns out that Two Tip Tuesday sometimes arrives on Wednesdays. Imagine that! If you’re new here, Two Tip Tuesday is where I send one short and sweet parenting strategy for you to try and one red hot resource I think you’ll love. We’re late enough. Let’s dive in…  Tip #1:  A New Way of “Making” Your Kid Say Sorry If your child is refusing to apologize (super common – it’s just a shame response), don’t force it. Instead, ask them, “How would you like to show that you’re ready to move on?”  Kids have an easier time showing they’re sorry... Read More
- [This One Word Changed Everything Immediately](https://sklarparenting.com/this-one-word-changed-everything-immediately/): Two Tip Tuesday is back! At least for this week. If you’re new here, Two Tip Tuesday is where I share one favorite parenting tip (as briefly as I can) and one red-hot resource. To subscribe, click HERE. Let’s dive in!  1.  Spillover – A Magical Word I advise all of my clients to teach their child the word “SPILLOVER.”  In fact, I used it last night with my son. It’s the idea that when we have big feelings, they can “spill over” onto other people. Parents do it. Kids do it. All people do it. The way to get power... Read More
- [Stop Guessing! A Tip for Handling Attention Seeking Behavior](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-21-stop-guessing-a-tip-for-handling-attention-seeking-behavior/): Today I’m sharing the second part of a tip I gave you last week on “attention seeking” vs. “connection seeking” behavior. Read PART 1 HERE. And our second pro tip will help you survive Halloween without feeling scared out of your mind about all the candy! Let’s do it… Tip #1:  Attention vs. Connection – Teach them the difference.  Last week, Tip #1 was to reflect on the difference between attention-seeking vs. connection-seeking behavior. I argued that knowing the difference can change the way you respond. This week, I’m sharing what I did as soon as I realized there was a difference... Read More
- [Tired of Attention-Seeking Behavior? Try This Perspective Shift](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-20-tired-of-attention-seeking-behavior-try-this-perspective-shift/): Tip #1:  When Kids Misbehave for Attention, Try This Clients frequently tell me that their kids act out due to attention-seeking behavior. Today I want to challenge that assumption. I used to think the same thing about my kids too, but at some point, I asked myself:   “What if it’s not for attention, but for connection? And is there even a difference?” To answer the question, I started tuning in and seeing if I could distinguish which was which. I trained myself to switch from saying, “Oh, he’s doing that for attention” to “Oh, he’s doing that for connection.” And then I watched to... Read More
- [Magic Tricks that Help Kids to Listen](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-19-magic-tricks-that-help-kids-to-listen/): It’s flu shot season! If you’re planning to get the shot for your kids and expecting a big fight, send me a message I can send you some ideas. I took my kids yesterday so this challenge is top of mind.  Meanwhile, here’s one tip for inspiring cooperation and a book recommendation I know you’ll love.  Tip #1: Magic Tricks for Kids Inspire Cooperation Do you remember the excitement of seeing a magic trick as a child? I remember a time stopping, feeling engrossed, curious, and eager to be “in the know.” But my favorite part was doing tricks on others…especially card tricks. I felt... Read More
- [Replace "Use Your Words" With this Phrase](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-18-replace-use-your-words-with-this-phrase/): Yesterday was my birthday. I’m a weirdo and love to work on my birthday. When my kids were younger, I used to spend my entire birthday at the library cleaning out my inbox. Nowadays, I’m an “Inbox 0 (to 10-ish)”  kind of girl, but I still enjoy a get-things-done kind of birthday and lots of celebrations throughout the week. Let’s dive into Two Tip Tuesday… Tip #1: Replace “Use Your Words” with “Use These Words” I used to say, “Use your words” to my boys when they would get grabby or aggressive. Then I realized that they didn’t know the words, and... Read More
- [Review Your Parenting Notes & A Picky Eating Challenge!](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-17-review-your-parenting-notes-a-picky-eating-challenge/): Happy October! If you said, “Wake me up when September ends,” then this is your wake-up call! (And just for funsies, here’s the music video to go with that Green Day reference). Today’s Two Tip Tuesday is a quick one!   Tip #1:  Review Your Parenting Notes Have you ever taken notes during a parenting class? Have you ever saved a parenting tip you saw in the social media? Archived a favorite Two Tip Tuesday? Or underlined sections in a parenting book you didn’t want to forget? Well, here’s your friendly reminder to go back and review those notes, screenshots, archives, and underlines. No really. Like really.... Read More
- [Teach Your Child to Counteroffer: A Simple Negotiation Skill for Families (with insights from The Boy Mom Academy)](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-16-teach-your-child-to-counteroffer-a-simple-negotiation-skill-for-families-with-insights-from-the-boy-mom-academy/): Thanks to the moms who reached out about The Boy Mom Academy. We already have a good sized group of intelligent and dedicated parents who are supporting each other and becoming experts in The Boy Mom Method.   Today’s first tip is one I share with clients All. The. Time. Your second tip is to imagine yourself joining the Academy. Here we go!  Tip #1:  Teach Your Child About Counteroffers Teaching kids to make “counteroffers” is a ninja parenting move. Sure, it’s annoying when kids negotiate incessantly, but we can teach them to do it with maturity and mindfulness. Here’s how:  During a connected moment when... Read More
- [Building Trust Through Gratitude: "Thank You for Telling Me" Changes Everything](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-15-building-trust-through-gratitude-thank-you-for-telling-me-changes-everything/): I’ve been busy as a bee building something special for all the boy moms out there….drum roll please… It’s called:  The Boy Mom Academy™ Next week, I’ll unveil more details. This week, I’m looking for early adopters to help me iron out the wrinkles. If The Boy Mom Academy piques your interest, contact me and I’ll bring you into the fold.  Meanwhile here’s your tip and red hot resource for the week: Tip #1:  Thank You For Telling Me That Try saying, “Thank you for telling me that” after your child tells you something hard. I know it’s tempting to disagree or respond with your point of... Read More
- [I'm in a Pickle: Problem Solving and Life Skills for Kids in the Kitchen](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-14-im-in-a-pickle-problem-solving-and-life-skills-for-kids-in-the-kitchen/): Burning Man was amazing, and now I’m back to share more tips I know you’ll love.    Ready?  Tip #1:  “I’m in a pickle” Several times per week I teach my clients the “I’m in a pickle” script. If you don’t know the idiom, a “pickle” is a dilemma where you feel stuck between two bad options…a common problem in parenting. Being transparent about this with kids is a great way to bring them into a problem-solving conversation. It works like this: Let’s say your child is begging for more screen time and you already said no twice. He’ll have a meltdown and throw a chair... Read More
- [Breaking Parenting Norms: Don't Demand Eye Contact and Insights from Burning Man](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-13-breaking-parenting-norms-dont-demand-eye-contact-and-insights-from-burning-man/): Heads up that Two Tip Tuesday is going on hiatus for the next few weeks while my husband and I go to Burning Man, a festival in Nevada. In fact, today’s second tip explains why I think Burning Man is one of the best things to ever happen to my kids…and they don’t even go!   Let’s dive in… Tip #1:  Should you Demand Eye Contact from Your Son? Last week, an anonymous mom shared some huge struggles she’s having with her son in the “Moms of Strong Willed Boys,” Facebook group…join the conversation HERE.  A great dialogue unfolded and I wanted to share one of my... Read More
- [Easy Ways to Get Your Child Talking After School, Plus the "3 Ps of Modern Digital Parenting"](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-12-easy-ways-to-get-your-child-talking-after-school-plus-the-3-ps-of-modern-digital-parenting/): The school year is underway for my newly minted 6th grader, and my high schoolers start tomorrow. Their independence inspires me…90% of the time! The other 10%, it kind of scares the sh*t out of me! If you missed last week’s zoom meeting on “How to do a Back to School Family Reset,” you can pick up the recording for just $7 by clicking: RIGHT HERE.  Let’s get started with Two Tip Tuesday!   Tip #1:  How to Get Your Child Talking After School I was so excited when my son got into the car after his first day of middle school. I couldn’t wait to find... Read More
- [How to End Your Child’s Nagging with One Simple Sentence + Time-Sensitive Tips from an Expert](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-11-how-to-end-your-childs-nagging-with-one-simple-sentence-time-sensitive-tips-from-an-expert/): For some families, the school year is looming large and the transition back to routines and homework feels too soon. Way too soon! For others, the first day of school can’t come fast enough. Either way, I have one tip and one red hot resource to help you make the best of it.    Tip #1:  Stop Your Child from Nagging You Nagging. It’s not just for moms! Many kids nag their parents when they want something. They beg and repeat and whine at us to see if we’ll give them more screen time, more sweets, more bedtime stories, more more more! Here’s a quick script you can... Read More
- [Organized and Ready: How Our Family Resets for the School Year](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-10-organized-and-ready-how-our-family-resets-for-the-school-year/): For some families, the school year is looming large and the transition back to routines and homework feels too soon. Way too soon! For others, the first day of school can’t come fast enough. Either way, I have one tip and one red hot resource for how to get organized and ready. I’ll show you how our family resets for the school year. Tip #1:  The “Back to School Family Reset” My family would not survive our transition back-to-school without our annual “Back to School Family Reset” and whiteboard exercise. My kids groan about it, but they’d be lost without it – so we march... Read More
- [Responding to Bored Children: Insights for Parents & Introducing a "Change Maker" Coach](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-9-responding-to-bored-children-insights-for-parents-introducing-a-change-maker-coach/): Yesterday, I took my kids bowling to get the most out of “Kids Bowl Free” (not too late to sign up!) when my 11-year-old was “soooo bored.” Let me tell you, bowling is not my sport. I bowled a 47! But ya know what is my favorite sport? Seeing my son beat me! Today’s tip is about rethinking boredom and introducing you to an inspiring change-maker in my community.  Tip #1:  Responding to Bored Children After too much “electronic babysitter” on Sunday, I told my 11-year-old son it was time to get off screens for the day. He proceeded to lie on the couch and... Read More
- [Parenting Hacks: Keeping Kids Engaged & Allowance Sorted](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-8-parenting-hacks-keeping-kids-engaged-allowance-sorted/): I can’t believe summer is more than half way over. Some families love this time of year. Others find it hard to bear with all the transitions, different camps, unstructured days, screen time guilt, and kids whining to be entertained. I might be projecting here. If any of that sounds familiar, I have a few parenting hacks that just might help. 1.  Have I Ever Told You About….?    This tip comes to you directly from my own bathroom. When my kids would refuse to brush their teeth or get distracted or resist sunscreen or say no to bath time, I would... Read More
- [Third Party Parenting and a Surprising Book Every #BoyMom Needs to Read](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-7-third-party-parenting-and-a-surprising-book-every-boymom-needs-to-read/): On Sunday, I reunited with two of my kids after a full month of sleepaway camp. I missed them in my bones, and I’m so glad to have them home…messy bedrooms, dirty dishes, smelly feet and all! This week’s pro tip and red hot resource are two things I tell my clients all the time. Tip #1:  Third Party Parenting I made this term up when my kids were little and I still use it to this day. I recently saw it used for sperm or egg donation – it’s not that! Third Party Parenting is when you create a system or you reference... Read More
- [Manage Summer Stress in Kids & Boost Safety Skills](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-6-manage-summer-stress-in-kids-boost-safety-skills/): Two Tip Tuesday is here!  Let’s jump right in. As always, you can catch last week’s tips right here.  Tip #1:  Stress Leads to Regression  When kids experience stress, they may regress to a stage of life when they felt more safe. During the pandemic, I saw tons of behavioral regression, potty regression, feeding regression, and emotional regression, especially in kids whose parents struggled most. The antidote is to focus on emotional safety. With so many summer transitions (think camps and vacays) happening right now, don’t be surprised if you see your child (or yourself) regress. Keep these things in mind:... Read More
- [Fun Summer Activities for Families, Managing Childhood Anxiety, and More!](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-5-fun-summer-activities-for-families-managing-childhood-anxiety-and-more/): Summer is in full swing and I’m in 7th heaven! I love this time of year. The sun sets late, I can walk the dog in shorts at night, and there are no school lunches! Let’s get started with Two Tip Tuesday so you can enjoy fun summer activities for families. If you missed last week’s tip, you can find it right here.  Tip #1:  Enter the Room with No Agenda A while back, I noticed that every time I walk into a room where my kids are hanging out, I have an agenda:  Time to get ready for bed guys. Please put... Read More
- [Surprise Rewards and Kids Bowl Free!](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-4-surprise-rewards-and-kids-bowl-free/): Missed my Tuesday newsletter this week? Here it is: Tip #1:  Surprise Rewards are Better Promising rewards in exchange for great behavior works sometimes, especially in the short term, but did you know there’s a better way to change behavior in the long term? Enter:  Surprise Rewards!  When kids get a reward they weren’t aiming for, they feel proud of themselves for being naturally awesome, which inspires them to keep being awesome – no carrot or stick required. So instead of saying, “If you’re good this week, you’ll get ice cream on Friday,” try saying, “Hey, you had a great... Read More
- [The Sock Game and Teaching Critical Thinking to Kids](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-3-the-sock-game-and-teaching-critical-thinking-to-kids/): Welcome to your second “Two Tip Tuesday,” where I share one pro parenting tip and one red hot resource. Let’s go! Tip #1: The Sock Game This is one of my favorite games to play with my kids because it’s super fun, invites connection, and gives kids a healthy feeling of power.  So get your socks on and get on the floor. The goal is to take each other’s socks off but keep yours on! It’s that easy. Games like this are great for disrupting power struggles, redirecting bad behavior, teaching emotional regulation, managing impulse control, and “practicing losing”. You... Read More
- [Stop Asking, Start Playing and Join the Boy Mom Membership](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tuesday-2-stop-asking-start-playing-and-join-the-boy-mom-membership/): This is where I share one pro parenting tip and one red hot resource. You can see them all here. Let’s go… Tip #1:  Stop Asking, Start Playing If your kid says “No!” or hits the ignore button when you suggest they play a game or find a toy or read a book or do anything fun, listen up! Instead of asking, just start doing. Set up that board game, start building that train set, play an audiobook in the car, start a game of solitaire, read a kids’ book on the couch. Entice your child by doing, not by... Read More
- [Sharing the Respect and Upping Your Child's #LifeSkillsNow Game](https://sklarparenting.com/two-tip-tuesday-1-sharing-the-respect-and-upping-your-childs-lifeskillsnow-game/): In case you missed my new email series: It’s been a minute since I sent you great parenting support via email. This summer, I want to change that. That’s why I’m starting “Two Tip Tuesday,” where I’ll share one insightful parenting tip and one suggestion for a product, blog, or other resource I know you’ll love. I’ll keep it short and carefully curated so I don’t waste a moment of your time. Let’s start! Tip #1 I know you say “I love you” to your child, but do you say, “I respect you”? The next time you start to say... Read More
- [A New Way To Say "I Love You"](https://sklarparenting.com/a-new-way-to-say-i-love-you/): Ever find yourself saying “I love you” and getting an unfulfilling, automated “love you too” or – they just say nothing. Let’s try something new! I’ve been experimenting with a twist on how we express love to our sons, and it’s fascinating. Here’s the scoop: The other night, instead of saying “I love you” when I was saying goodbye to my son, I said, “Bye, honey, I respect you.” He was like, “wait…what?” but happy. So, I’ve been replacing “I love you” with “I respect you.” Not always, but a lot. And then one night, my son responded with, “I... Read More
- [School is Boring Mystery](https://sklarparenting.com/school-is-boring-mystery/): Is your child dropping the “school is boring” bomb? Don’t worry, it’s like a secret code! When he says it’s boring, he might actually mean it’s challenging, too easy, not fun, or anxiety-inducing. It’s a maze of emotions! Your mission? Decode the message. Ask him which parts are the most and least boring. If he mentions something he enjoys (like recess), you’re on the right track! I can’t give personalized advice here, but feel free to comment below so I can give you personalized help. No matter what, use this info to connect with your son and offer empathy. Remember,... Read More
- [Measuring Defensiveness and Vulnerability in Your Child’s Intense Behaviors](https://sklarparenting.com/measuring-defensiveness-and-vulnerability-in-your-childs-intense-behaviors/): When I work with parents whose kids are displaying aggressive or emotionally explosive behaviors, I’m always paying attention to what works best for this individual child to reduce the frequency, duration, and intensity of these behaviors. But the question often arises: How do you measure and define intensity? Intensity is a word that gets thrown around a lot when it comes to children’s behavior, but let’s define what we mean by it and how it shows up in your family life. I like to think of intensity in two different categories: defensiveness and vulnerability. Let’s take a closer look at... Read More
- [How to Talk to Your Kids About What's Happening in Israel and Gaza](https://sklarparenting.com/how-to-talk-to-your-kids-about-whats-happening-in-israel-and-gaza/): The ugly truth is that as parents, at some point, we all unintentionally blurt out statements that shame our sons. If you do shame him, watch for signs like, them breaking eye contact or reacting worse to your words. These are tell-tale signs that you might have just shamed him. Here are 4 statements to avoid: 1️ – “Act your age! You should know better!” 2️ – “What is wrong with you? Why would you do that?” 3️ – “You’re overreacting. It’s not a big deal.” Instead, let’s choose curiosity and understanding. When they do something that would normally cause... Read More
- [Are You Shaming Your Son?](https://sklarparenting.com/are-you-shaming-your-son/): The ugly truth is that as parents, at some point, we all unintentionally blurt out statements that shame our sons. If you do shame him, watch for signs like, them breaking eye contact or reacting worse to your words. These are tell-tale signs that you might have just shamed him. Here are 4 statements to avoid: 1️ – “Act your age! You should know better!” 2️ – “What is wrong with you? Why would you do that?” 3️ – “You’re overreacting. It’s not a big deal.” Instead, let’s choose curiosity and understanding. When they do something that would normally cause... Read More
- [Laughter is a Mom-Superpower](https://sklarparenting.com/laughter-is-a-mom-superpower/): When stress hits, humor can be elusive. Same goes for kids! And all that cortisol gets stored in the brain and can contribute to poor sleep, a short fuse, and a host of other challenges. But here’s what’s awesome: did you know that humor helps the body metabolize cortisol!? So here’s your task: – Find ways to make him laugh. – High fives turned dramatic tumbles, surprise kisses, silly jokes—the works! Laughter not only lightens the mood, it changes your brain chemistry for the better. Even faking a laugh can do wonders. Inject some humor into the room. Share in... Read More
- [What Road Rage Has To Do with Parenting](https://sklarparenting.com/what-road-rage-has-to-do-with-parenting/): I’ve been thinking about how important the WAY we talk about our feelings is, so we’re not modeling being judgemental of others. For example, when driving and someone cuts me off, instead of saying, “Oh, that jerk, I wish he wouldn’t have done that!”, or I start acting road rage-y about it, I just say to my kids, “Oh, that was unexpected.“When I say it that way, it becomes neutral. Now I’m not judging the other driver and their actions. I’m just acknowledging what I saw. And you can translate that into the way you speak with your kids. For... Read More
- [What to do when your kid says, "I hate you!"](https://sklarparenting.com/what-to-do-when-your-kid-says-i-hate-you/): Do you take it personally when your child says, “I hate you!” Or tells you you’re the worst parent ever? Or in my case, “You call yourself a parent coach, right?“ The thing is when we take those things personally, we give away all of our power. Because the truth is it’s not about you. When your child says nasty things to you, it is not about you. Your child is saying “I hate you” as a way to communicate that they’re angry – as a way to say to you, “I don’t like what you’re doing. You’re setting a... Read More
- [Are you reinforcing the negative stories about your son or the positive ones?](https://sklarparenting.com/are-you-reinforcing-the-negative-stories-about-your-son-or-the-positive-ones/): Parenting Tip: Reinforce positive traits, not negative ones. Take a moment to reflect on how your son sees himself. Does he feel like the “bad kid” who gets into trouble? It’s important to understand his self-perception. Here’s the key: Focus on his strengths and celebrate positive behavior. Even if you have to search for the good stuff, reinforcing positive stories will make a huge difference! Boost his confidence and help him feel better about himself. Remember, as a parent, you hold the power to shape your children’s self-image. Let’s support them, praise them, and hold them in high regard.
- [How old should kids be to start family meetings?](https://sklarparenting.com/how-old-should-kids-be-to-start-family-meetings/): Someone responded to my email last week about doing a family meeting before school starts, which included coming up with bedtime routines, morning routines, chores, screen time, and anything else for getting ready for the new year. And she asked me, “How old does your child have to be to start this?” My response was “Maybe three or four years old” because at that time, even if they’re not able to read, or able to see the future and know what time they want to leave for school to get there on time, you want to start planting seeds for... Read More
- [What happens when kids are stressed out](https://sklarparenting.com/what-happens-when-kids-are-stressed-out/): There’s something I believe parents get wrong… The belief that they can “parent behavior _out_ of their kid”. “If I just say the right thing… If I just do the right thing… then they’ll stop behaving so badly.” I’m sorry to say, it doesn’t work that way. You cannot parent behavior “out” of your strong-willed child. It’s time to shift the focus from fixing your child to fixing the system. And one way to do that is by centering the parent-child relationship. When my client’s sons are struggling, I coach them to bring a level of compassion and understanding for... Read More
- [Why Relationship Matters With Your Son?](https://sklarparenting.com/why-relationship-matters-with-your-son/): There’s something I believe parents get wrong… The belief that they can “parent behavior _out_ of their kid”. “If I just say the right thing… If I just do the right thing… then they’ll stop behaving so badly.” I’m sorry to say, it doesn’t work that way. You cannot parent behavior “out” of your strong-willed child. It’s time to shift the focus from fixing your child to fixing the system. And one way to do that is by centering the parent-child relationship. When my client’s sons are struggling, I coach them to bring a level of compassion and understanding for... Read More
- [Working Together As Parents](https://sklarparenting.com/working-together-as-parents/): How do you and your parenting partner team up to instill values in your children and inspire cooperation? ‌ If that’s not so easy to answer, do you find yourselves trying to prove who’s right and who’s wrong when you disagree? ‌ Winning an argument doesn’t mean you’re winning at parenting. In fact, it can create distance, tension, and resentment between you and your partner. Instead of aiming to win arguments, try focusing on working together toward your shared goals and outcomes. Dig deeper. Use vulnerability. Admit your fears. Be honest, not argumentative. Create a culture of support and listening... Read More
- [Are you doing it right?](https://sklarparenting.com/are-you-doing-it-right/): Feel like you’re in a constant power struggle with your son? ‌ Take it as a sign that your current strategies simply aren’t working. We’ve all been there. I’d love to help you shift your approach to one that includes collaboration instead. Collaboration is a different way of working with your son to solve problems and this works particularly well with strong-willed boys because they want to be a part of the pack. Whereas one-sided problem solving (“do as I say or else”) may seem controlling and cause your son to push back. Partnering to find a solution gives him... Read More
- [How does collaborating with your son solve big challenges?](https://sklarparenting.com/how-does-collaborating-with-your-son-solve-big-challenges/): Feel like you’re in a constant power struggle with your son? ‌ Take it as a sign that your current strategies simply aren’t working. We’ve all been there. I’d love to help you shift your approach to one that includes collaboration instead. Collaboration is a different way of working with your son to solve problems and this works particularly well with strong-willed boys because they want to be a part of the pack. Whereas one-sided problem solving (“do as I say or else”) may seem controlling and cause your son to push back. Partnering to find a solution gives him... Read More
- [Creating Micro-Connections](https://sklarparenting.com/creating-micro-connections/): “Parenting Micro-Aggressions” are those little things we do throughout the day that knock our kids down a notch. “You didn’t do this!” “You did this wrong.” “Why would you do that?!” I teach my clients to avoid micro-aggressions with their kids, but more importantly to increase what I call micro-connections. Trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry taught me that children benefit from both: So let’s increase both of those 👆 using micro-connections. How? Add more compliments, more I love yous, more little moments that say to your child “I see you and you’re special and you’re not alone and you belong... Read More
- [Am I “in control” or “being controlling"? How do I know the difference?](https://sklarparenting.com/am-i-in-control-or-being-controlling-how-do-i-know-the-difference/): The difference depends on how your FEAR, ENERGY, and TRUST shape your parenting. Here’s how: 1. FEAR: When I’m in control of a situation, I might be afraid but I’m okay. I can handle it. I get controlling when I can’t handle my fear and I start forcing a certain outcome. For example: If my kid isn’t grateful when he gets a gift, I might worry that he’s going to grow up spoiled. I’m in control when I remind myself that I’m catastrophizing and I have other loving ways to influence him to be a grateful kid. I would get... Read More
- [Are you putting pressure on yourself to impart wisdom?](https://sklarparenting.com/are-you-putting-pressure-on-yourself-to-impart-wisdom/): Question: Does your eagerness to teach your son a lesson (like telling him why hitting is wrong) ever result in lectures that lose his attention entirely? We’ve all been there. It’s tricky. We feel pressure to teach them a lesson, and yet when we come from this lecture-y space, they miss out on the lesson. Then it’s just disconnected finger-wagging that your son isn’t actually learning from. The pressure you feel to impart the lesson or wisdom causes you to talk to him in ways that actually slow his growth and the natural discovery and wisdom he gets from life... Read More
- [Are You Letting Your Son Learn From His Mistakes?](https://sklarparenting.com/are-you-letting-your-son-learn-from-his-mistakes/): Here’s a story that shows how boys either learn from their mistakes or from our responses to their mistakes. Which do you think is better? Johnny threw his controller and broke it after he lost a video game. His mom yelled at him, and while she didn’t mean to do it, her response left him feeling ashamed of himself. It’s obviously upsetting that he can’t manage his anger or respect his (expensive) belongings. She said things like: “Why would you do that?” “What’s wrong with you?” ”Are you crazy?” “You’re not gonna make it in this world with that kind... Read More
- [Are You A Sturdy Parent?](https://sklarparenting.com/are-you-a-sturdy-parent/): Your son needs YOU to be sturdy… that means you don’t waver in hard moments. You’re grounded when the wind blows and his emotions come crashing down. It’s hard, but important work for us as parents. In my experience, there are 6 characteristics of a “Sturdy Parent” and I wanted to share them with you. And once you’ve gone through them all, I’d love to hear which one resonates with you most. Do you embody all of them? Where do you want to be more sturdy? Let me know in the comments! Without further ado, here are 6 traits of... Read More
- [Being Fully Present With Your Child Is An Act Of Love](https://sklarparenting.com/being-fully-present-with-your-child-is-an-act-of-love/): Being Fully Present With Your Child Is An Act Of Love I’ve been thinking about this idea a lot lately because it’s honestly very hard for me to be fully present with my children.⁠ ⁠ I’m so distracted by everything else that needs to be done and all the things “demanding” my attention… ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ Given all of this, it’s no wonder it’s hard to be present!⁠ So this is the inquiry I’m in right now: How do I transform my relationship with all of these “demands” so that I can show up for myself and my kids as... Read More
- [2 Truths and a Lie: A great game for keeping kids engaged](https://sklarparenting.com/2-truths-and-a-lie-a-great-game-for-keeping-kids-engaged/): I’ll never forget standing in line at Legoland for 45 minutes waiting for a 30-second thrill that my son was unwilling to pass up. He was bored out of his mind, but his strong will and thrill-seeking zest for life won me over, and I was willing to pay the price — only because I had “Two Truths and a Lie” in my back pocket. This is a great game for keeping kids engaged, and it was the perfect distraction. Whether you love this game and forgot about it, or it’s brand new to you, give it a try the... Read More
- [Raising Our Children through the Lens of Empathy, Diversity, and Respect](https://sklarparenting.com/raising-our-children-through-the-lens-of-empathy-diversity-and-respect/): With the George Floyd Case and Derek Chauvin’s Trial in the news, I wanted to repost this article I wrote last July for the Center for Children and Youth. July 8, 2020 In response to the events following George Floyd’s death, my son’s first grade Montessori teacher hosted a family Zoom lesson on “Difference, Respect, and Empathy.” The lesson focused on accepting, celebrating, and learning about those different from us and emphasized the importance of empathy and respect for all. The teacher explained that she would not bring up the subject of police violence, but if students brought it up... Read More
- [What do High 5s, Playing Chase, and Magic Tricks have in Common? Boost Your Child’s Confidence Through Play](https://sklarparenting.com/what-do-high-5s-playing-chase-and-magic-tricks-have-in-common-boost-your-childs-confidence-through-play/): They give away power, in a good way. If I’ve learned anything during this pandemic, it’s that feeling powerless in the face of something much bigger than me that controls my life…is…terrifying. Do my children feel that way when they face me? I’m bigger than them. I control their lives. But they don’t fear me. They trust me to give them power and control whenever I can. They know that my goal is their physical safety and emotional connection…except when I act like it’s not. Like yesterday, when I ignored my son’s wailing tears over a sibling-induced injury because I... Read More
- [Pandemic Stress and Parenting Guilt](https://sklarparenting.com/pandemic-stress-and-parenting-guilt/): Does Your Cup Runneth Over? During this global crisis, I’ve seen many new themes show up in my work with parents, but none is more prevalent than the parenting stress during pandemic and the guilt parents feel as they watch their kids turn into homebodies, spend more time on screens, do the bare minimum for school, or slowly withdraw from their friends. It’s hard not to feel overwhelmed and guilty about not doing more to set limits and support our kids. Parents share that they are struggling to make ends meet financially, emotionally, socially, and physically, and they’re exhausted. Have... Read More
- [Bananas to Bananas: A Game for the Whole Family](https://sklarparenting.com/bananas-to-bananas-a-game-for-the-whole-family/): Today’s game suggestion comes to you straight from my kids’ imaginations. My son made up this game over dinner one night, and it’s called Bananas to Bananas. It’s a variation on Apples to Apples but it doesn’t require any cards or reading skills, and the competition is equally friendly. Bananas to Bananas How to Play The rules are very simple and there are many winning moments. The first person says any word – let’s take “Broccoli” for example. Everyone else says a word that they think goes with the first word, like Green, Delicious, Crunchy, and Yucky. Then the person... Read More
- [20 (Thousand) Questions - The Perfect Boredom Buster:](https://sklarparenting.com/20-thousand-questions-the-perfect-boredom-buster/): This is a variation on the class 20 (Thousand) Questions game we all know and used to love. But in this case, there’s no counting and no limit. How to Play Someone thinks of a person, place, or thing and everyone gets to fire off yes/no questions. It may take a while, but that’s the point. When my son stumped us with Ursula, The Sea Witch, we were happy to oblige — he stayed at the table twice as long as usual. Because. power. When children know something we don’t, they feel a sense of control, and it’s a healthy,... Read More
- [Let's Play a Game: Creative ways to keep kids happy at the table, on a hike, or in the car](https://sklarparenting.com/lets-play-a-game-creative-ways-to-keep-kids-happy-at-the-table-on-a-hike-or-in-the-car/): If your kids are anything like mine, they can hardly sit still for an entire family meal, they complain on long car rides, and they act like dying snails on the shortest of hikes. In this series, you’ll learn several games that take the “I’m bored” out of otherwise boring moments. The first step is to know your family culture around games. So before diving into the games, make sure you set the stage for success by asking yourself these questions first: Who goes first? And how will you decide? Don’t let a competitive sibling spoil the game before it... Read More
- [Word Chains: A Simple Game to Pass Time and Engage Bored Kids](https://sklarparenting.com/word-chains-a-simple-game-to-pass-time-and-engage-bored-kids/): For my series on “Games to play on a hike, at the dinner table, or in the car with kids,” I’ve been experimenting with variations of our family’s Word Chains game to keep my bored kids entertained. My kids enjoy it, but the rules need to be well established, or you can end up with one child aiming to overthrow the family democracy. Let me explain. Word Chains for Bored Kids How to Play: First, choose a category, like food, places, colors, or cars. The first person says an item in the category. The next person has to say a... Read More
- [Patience and Compassion Rise and Fall Together](https://sklarparenting.com/patience-and-compassion-rise-and-fall-together/): Have you ever “tried to be more patient” with your child? How’s that going for you? It’s hard, right? Telling yourself to have the opposite feeling is like looking in the mirror and lying about what you see. In reality, patience and compassion go hand in hand. Being patient with your child is about how you act toward them in the moment. It’s about losing your temper or keeping your cool. It’s about insulting your child or creating a teachable moment. It’s about disconnecting from or connecting to your child’s heart. Having compassion for your child is about how you... Read More
- [How to be 1% Better Every Day](https://sklarparenting.com/how-to-be-1-better-every-day/): “Compounding is the greatest mathematical discovery of all time.” — Albert Einstein The quest to become a better version of yourself often feels like a roller coaster ride. It’s hard. And it’s usually so uneven. You can end in failure. But life is a journey, not a marathon, so you always have another opportunity to restart and improve. Many people practically look out for secrets, tricks, and hacks that will make EVERYTHING better right now. But unfortunately life doesn’t work that way. There are no “overnight successes”. Think of all the incredible people you truly admire. They didn’t succeed becasue... Read More
- [How To Become Ridiculously Self-Aware In 20 Minutes](https://sklarparenting.com/how-to-become-ridiculously-self-aware-in-20-minutes/): Four years ago my sister got me something that would dramatically alter the direction of my life. In fact, it was probably the most influential gift I’ve ever received. It would help me find my true calling, become a writer at the Huffington Post, and go on a 5-month road trip across America by myself. You know what it was? One of these… A journal. A freaking journal. Here are 4 Life-Changing Benefits Of Daily Journaling You’d think that sitting down and putting pen to paper wouldn’t be that life-changing of a practice. In this article you’ll learn four things..... Read More
- [What’s the Point of Self-Improvement Anyway?](https://sklarparenting.com/whats-the-point-of-self-improvement-anyway/): There’s a paradox with self-improvement and it is this: the ultimate goal of all self-improvement is to reach the point where you no longer feel the need to improve yourself. Think about it: The whole goal of improving your productivity is to reach the point where you never have to think about how to be more productive. The whole point of pursuing happiness is to reach the point where one no longer has to think about being happy. The whole point of improving your relationships is so that you can enjoy some drama-free cunnilingus in the McDonald’s drive-thru without almost crashing the car. (Still working on... Read More
- [Self-love is the basis for self-improvement](https://sklarparenting.com/self-love-is-the-basis-for-self-improvement/): There’s a quandary I hear people talk about a lot in the self-improvement world which goes something like this: “Should I keep trying to change, or should I just learn to love myself?” The people posing this question almost invariably feel terrible about themselves, and further, they assume that’s par for the course. It isn’t. In fact this whole “self-love vs self-improvement” thing is a false dilemma, one that badly misunderstands the role of self-love. This equates loving yourself with thinking you’re just fine the way you are. It treats self-love as a reward for being the person you want... Read More
- [How to Supercharge Your Learning and Self-Improvement](https://sklarparenting.com/how-to-supercharge-your-learning-and-self-improvement-the-golden-ratio-of-communication/): One of my favorite pieces of ancient wisdom comes from the Stoic philosopher Epictetus: We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak. Sure, that may not be the real reason we have two ears and one mouth, but it reveals a useful pattern that we see repeated in communication in general. Communication essentially has two parts: transmission and reception. These will manifest differently depending on the medium, but the general scheme is the same. Textual Communication: writing and reading Verbal Communication: speaking and listening Pictorial communication: displaying and viewing Simply Put, 2:1 Is Key... Read More

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